You say that he came up with a solution that you later realized wouldn’t work for you. Do you feel comfortable to share what that was? It must have been difficult to bring up the issue and put yourself in a vulnerable position putting your feelings out there. I admire your courage. It can be hard to let go when it’s something we want, but you are correct in that both must want it, but both must also be ready, in the “right” place. Often difficult to make both connections these days. Will you remain friends or limit contact now?