Dear Bubba:

Your ex’s later behavior, regarding the dog, the olive oil and such indicates to me that he is frustrated with his choice (as influenced as it has been by his parents), that he is doubting himself (and his parents), and is therefore trying to … cement his position that you are at fault, that you are the evil entity, so to feel better about his choice.

A clue to the right-before-the wedding dynamic is in your initial share: “We had arguments here and there like any couple… because his parents were intruding..”

I often read accounts about arguments and fights “like any couple”- I wonder where that statement “like any couple” comes from, has the person witnessed any and every couple… and why do arguments assumed to be normal and necessary in a relationship)-

What were those initial arguments about- what did he bring up and how did you respond?

anita