Dear Bubba:

You are welcome.

He was very frugal, not turning the heat in the winter time  and not flushing the toilet so to save water even though he/ the two of you were able to afford the heat … and the flushing of water. He also didn’t want to take you out.

You worked 10 hours of physically demanding job per day, commuted two hours per day, cooked for him and did inside chores while he (who worked a less physically demanding job + commute 7 hours per day)  played computer games up to 6 hours per day.

You wrote: “I truly believe his parents gave him an ultimatum. There is no logic behind his actions (action is breaking up with you)”

I would like to offer the following logic behind his breaking up with you: he was too uncomfortable about spending money. It pained him to spend money. Living alone he could determine when to turn the heat on and when to flush the toilet. Living with you, at times you turned on the heat and you flushed the toilet. The expense of it terrified him.

He broke up with you so that he will be in control of the heat and the toilet. I don’t think his parents had anything to do with it. He called them to complain about you. He fed them with negative information about you.

It is not his parents. Your fiancé broke up with you because of his stinginess.

What do you think about his stinginess (fear and distress about any expenditure, no matter how small)? Are you at all relieved that you don’t have to live a lifetime fearing to turn on the heat at winter time or facing an unflushed toilet for the rest of your life?

anita