It’s not like I haven’t been forward in that I like him etc I’m not playing hard to get. It’s just in the past I have approached the guy to make the plans about where to go and what to do and sometimes I’ve been in positions where actually the guy doesn’t like me in terms of relationship material and is only after one thing or I get into a relationship with a guy who has minimal investment because I’m doing all the work. I don’t want to get into that trap again – it’s finding the middle ground, by not being too guarded.

Make sense?