Dear Jessica:

I like what you wrote here: “I do not want to be with someone who will hurt me… I do not want to mistake pain for love…I do not tolerate personal attacks from others”, and so, I think you should move on permanently, that is, leave your ex in the past.

Forgiving him is practically useless unless he sincerely regrets his behavior, makes amends and changes his behavior.

I hope you find a way to live independently with your baby, in a safe home, not under personal attacks, not disrespected, but safe. Make your home a loving home, for you and your baby. You both need love, kindness, safety. Can you make that happen?

anita