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It sounds to me like he isn’t real interested or else he wants to keep you hanging. You can’t fix him, and if he cared enough about you, he would have let you know what was going on. It doesn’t take much energy to send a short text. If he is already holding out on you with his emotions, I would take that as a red flag. I mean, after all, what can he do for his friend that takes so much of his time that he can’t even answer you. Especially since you said he had posted on other social media. Don’t call him, don’t chase him and don’t let him hurt you anymore. You feel in your gut something is wrong, trust your gut. I repeat, you can’t help him,, only he can do that and he isn’t asking for your help. And more than likely you won’t get any closure either. He wants you when he wants you and to do that he has to keep you hanging around. Ask yourself this: Who is doing most of the work in your relationship with this guy? You are calling him, you are driving there, is this what sounds like a good relationship to you? I’ve been there, and perhaps I am being overly untrusting, but to me that is a huge red flag and you need to cut your losses. If nothing else, don’t call him, let him do the leg work, see how hard he will try. Test it out. Don’t take my word on it but please do listen to your gut, it doesn’t lie. Sending you the best wishes I can and blessings that all will turn out for you.