Dear apples333:

You wrote: “I was too young to settle but this guy is anything BUT settling”- do you mean that at this point you are ready to consider him as your future husband but he is not ready to consider you as his future wife? That he is not ready at all to think about marriage?

If so, it will not be a good idea, I believe, to move to the city again unless the two of you are clear about what each one of you wants from the other and from the relationship. It is time now for you to communicate honestly with him about wants and expectations, before you move (in eight months).

If you move there again, a positive mentality/ attitude will not last long if the relationship with him is messed up: if you have hopes about the relationship that he doesn’t share, if you hope to marry him but he has no such intentions.

anita