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Thank you Anita. I appreciate your response. It guess when it comes to my anxiety I have such a hard time not letting my emotions get the best of me. I seek comfort in knowing my boyfriend can understand that part of me but I know he cannot fix it or make it go away and I’m not sure how to deal with it most of the time. I always feel like I’m over thinking everything. For ex: If my boyfriend doesn’t answer me for a little I assume he just doesn’t want to talk to me or he thinks I’m a burden. Which I know this is most likely not true, but when I get all anxious these are the first thoughts to come to my mind. And being in this relationship this is not the first time I have felt this way, I have felt this way in previous relationships. But I’m afraid ill push my partner away by over compensating mistakenly, because I want his attention to feel secure. I know this is my own issue and I need to figure out how to resolve it but I’m unsure how. Aside from this, my boyfriend as far as I know he has been loyal to me, his previous relationships he was in open relationships he never wanted to be with just one person. And before we started dating throughout our friendship I saw that some of the girls he “dated” or “hooked up with” he didn’t really find much value in them. I would even tell him, why do you involve yourself with these girls if you don’t even truly want to be with them and he told me part of it was he liked the attention because of his own insecurities. Honestly that made a lot of sense to me. But when we started dating he told me he new I didn’t want an open relationship and he new that going into this and that was okay with him. But I guess in the back of my mind I worry just me alone wont be enough for him or that I wont be able to keep it interesting enough. I really care and value my relationship with him. I know that based off his emotions I cant always blame myself, there may be other factors that play into it like work, school or being tired. But I just worry I wont know the real truth unless I pry it out which I don’t want to ever force upon him. I hope this makes sense. Thank you again 🙂