Dear laelithia:

If you do meet him in the current post-relationship context, you may see him as the real him, that is the one he is outside the one month relationship, or car ride.. or adventure part ride (what I compared this short relationship to, on this thread). You came up with the title “getting over infatuation with someone who wasn’t real”-your perception of him  isn’t real, outside that now-expired context, that is.

Since that month was over he wasn’t loving to you: he broke up with you, he had other relationship and he suggested to you, clearly, that you are not his type. I want your heart (emotional mind) and mind (rational mind) to come to a meeting place in Reality.

Mental health is about just that.

The attention he paid you, the words he used, the emotions, were all perfect to awaken in you the desire to be truly loved, and this awakening is what keeps you in fantasy regarding where you can get the love you crave.

The lesson, I believe, is what it is that you crave.

Take care.

*Will be back in about 7 hours.

anita