Dear laelithia:

You are welcome.

The key sentence in what he told you was “We’re alike in so many ways. We’re both rushing in.”-

He acknowledged right there that he was rushing (as in driving the car fast-and-furious).

I understood already that your time with him during that month was not all euphoria and ecstasy. You shared that there were arguments, when drinking too much.

Back to the RUSHING- he said right there that he was rushing. Looking at his pattern, woman after woman, he is indeed rushing. Maybe he likes to be the only one pressing against that gas pedal in the car, doesn’t want the woman’s foot on it.

You wrote: “I’m worried now, more than ever and with my relationship experience, if I sustain any relationship with a man to do that and not abandon me.”-

You are afraid that this month long relationship with a man with a pattern of even shorter relationships determines that you are unable to sustain any relationship with a man. But you had a long term relationship (do I remember correctly, from age 18-25?). What was that relationship like?

anita