Dear likegreenlover:

In your original post you wrote: “i never wanted to break up and did not see it coming. It was all so sudden and unexplainable . It’s just hard going from being (practically) married to someone to all the sudden cut off.. i still wish i would wake up and this would be a bad dream.”

Your first post reads like your relationship with him was fine,  and then, suddenly, unexplainably he broke up with you. Two months after the breakup you found out that he cheated on you.

In your second post, you wrote about the relationship before he cheated on you: “We had been fighting more often, mostly about his drinking… drinking was becoming more and more often…We’d fight about his drinking habits and more recently would fight about him not wanting to spend time with me… he’d leave all night to gamble and home home around 2AM once if already been asleep . So yes arguing was pretty frequent but we’d been through worse in previous years.”

It now reads to me that the relationship before he cheated on you was not fine but full of trouble and has been so for a long time, even “worse in previous years.”

Before the breakup, did you underestimate the severity of the troubles in the relationship, his drinking, his being out until the early hours?

anita