I agree I have very strong feeling for this girl and she literately messages me every day.  There is some things I miss with us like the sex.  However she keeps talking about this guy she has been seeing and how she finds the relationship distant but loving (this has made me uncomfortable).  Yesterday she was upset and I felt bad I couldn’t do much as she doesn’t want me to come to hers at the moment after the big argument.  Today I messaged her saying I could not cope with having a friendship when I have strong feelings for her and she called me to try and calm me down.

I agree what you were saying she was not sure at the beginning and she is trying to avoid loosing the benefits between us as a friend.  I do feel for her that I cannot move on as it is probably annoying her and I value those benefits we shared and she said its gonna take time to rebuild a friendship.  But I cannot keep holding her back like this.  Please tell me your ideas and tell me which one is the most constructive.

Bradley