Dear Lin:

I think I know how NOT to “get that vibe going again”-

Answer: “to want to, so very badly”- to desperately want to get a feeling that is not there is the way to not get it.

If I was you, I would let go, best I can, of the wanting and expecting that particular feeling, that vibe or spark. If you do like and love your boyfriend; if you appreciate him as much as you do, and if you are not physically appalled by him, can you not keep going without that vibe?

Maybe all women lost that vibe for the man they love at one point or another. Maybe all men lose it for their women, at one point or another. I can’t imagine A Vibe unchanged eternally, lifetime.

I hope your knee heals well. Post again with your thoughts and feelings.

anita