Hi Avery,

I hate when I would lose people for stupid reasons. Drugs are a stupid reason. It was stupid for him to choose drugs over you. And he knows it!

The other girl: Long distance relationships are tough for even the most well balanced, happy person. He’s a young guy (with a problem with addiction) and he messed up and slept with some girl. Another stupid reason. Is she better than you? No, because she’s choosing some cheater on drugs. How good can she be?

So the  cheater already feels bad, and perhaps gets a text from you. Plagued with justified guilt, he can’t take it and becomes defensive, and takes it all out on you. Then uses his substance abuse problem to manipulate you back into his orbit. Then blows it again. Big time.

You do not deserve that. You know it. He knows it. And get this. Are you sitting down? He knows you know it!

What you can do is have the definitive last word, and block him everywhere he can reach you before he can respond.

When you do this, when you say through action a definitive NO towards an emotionally abusive, addicted cheater, no other emotionally abusive, addicted cheaters will accidentally spiral into your orbit in the future. Soon, only nice, moderate, faithful people will be in your universe.

Good Luck!

Inky