Dear Elsa:

So he decided to end the relationship three weeks after the implementation of that “brain pacemaker” (“3 weeks after his operation he tells me he no longer loves me and wants to leave because he has fallen in love.  this person is not interested in him but still he wants to leave..”)

I don’t know if there is any value in it for you, but it is possible that his decision was highly affected by the procedure itself (see Wikipedia/ elsewhere for side effects and possible complications, which I mentioned briefly in my first post to you).

It is devastating that following you taking care of him for so long during his Parkinson’s, especially during the toughest three years of his illness, that he is leaving you when you are ill. there is no way to avoid the pain involved. Your heartbreak is understandable.

You are still emotionally attached to him and you probably need the companionship and support of a man in your life. Try to get emotional support elsewhere, maybe a support group you can meet regularly. Over time with emotional/social support elsewhere, your desire to connect with him will lessen and lessen.

Post anytime with your thoughts and feelings.

anita