Hi Lily…what a heart breaking story. Wow. Forgiving someone often times takes time. I have a feeling that you will have to come to terms with your resentment first before you can forgive. That’s my current thought anyway. And what I mean by coming to terms with your resentment, I mean that the resentment has to take on less meaning for you so that you can begin your new journey. Your reaction of resentment is totally normal-you have been blindsided and hurt by someone you love(d). Being relieved of resentment has to happen before you can forgive. I also think that having the feeling of having less resentment is a very good indicator that you are healing and that you can move on in more clarity. Ridding yourself from resentment, letting go, forgiving, and moving on takes time. I told someone in a different post that life is the classroom and experience is the teacher. It took me many years to fully appreciate that. You asked, “How do I find myself again?” You are not lost Lily. It may feel like it, but you are not lost because you can go everywhere there is to go, literally and figuratively. You can take yourself on any journey of your design, whether it be imagining your correction in direction that takes you to a place where you can visualize your healing and your new life, or on a fantastic backpacking trip. I went to the top of Mt. Whitney twice and OMG what a humbling, beautiful, breathtaking experience. Lily you will heal. You will forgive on your terms, you will enjoy life again and you will love and be loved again. I promise.

Pearce

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