Hi Thomas,
It seems everytime we go through so much pain, heartbreak, lonliness, anger, grieving, about a break-up..wishing they would come back to us, missing them, the memories, etc..then, when we *finally* start getting over the pain and move on with our lives, and become happy once again, here come ourut ex’s wanting us back. Happens to many of us.
Happened to me, except it took me four years to get over the love of my life, the man I thought I would marry. He cheated on me once while we were engaged. We were both very young. I was very naive. I forgave him..my friends always told me “once a cheater, always a cheater”. I didn’t listen and I should have. Would have saved me alot of misery. He did it again. Then we broke out engagement off. Ten years later, he showed up at my door, God, he looked handsome, he was the most handsome man I had ever seen. He still is to this day at 55 years old. He was married with twins when he showed up at my door, told me he still thought about me all the time, missed us, me, was in an unhappy marriage and wanted to rekindle our romance. I felt nothing for him.
I’m so glad I never went back to him, because, what they say is true, once a cheater, always a cheater. Please, don’t go back to her. You have made so many positive strides and growth and are happy now, if you went back to her, it is very hard to rekindle an old flame, and it doesn’t sound like she has grown very much and you would not be happy. Just keep being happy without her, the door will open up for someone who won’t feel the need to cheat. Keep us posted.
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