Thanks for the replies everyone. I appreciate all the input. She stated she told her current partner the only reason she isnt still with me is because i had moved to a different city. And she has been saying things like no man has ever compared to me and she still loves and misses me. Even last night we spoke at length about our love and she even cried at one stage so the love isnt lost which deep down i am greatful because she still cares. I know its not viable at this stage and all the flying back and forth would be like reopening a wound, but i wouldnt say no. I am back in her city in another 2.5 years and yes that is a long time and alot can change in that time. With the whole hot and cold scenario i think maybe my expectations are unrealistic as she has her own life at the moment. She did say to me everytime we talk for hours about our love in depth it feels good for awhile after but then it sinks in we are still 1000km apart now and then the communication goes back to minimsl which my logic sais fair enough. I wish i could just think with my head and not my heart for once. She did say to me if she flies over to see me it by no means secures her. She is purely with her current partner whom she has stated she doesnt wana see anymore but he kills her loneliness and from what she has said he feels the same. Im still tying to find clarity. Why does my heart say she is the one when my logic tells me im using all my energy dragging my baggage through my only chance at life… like an achor. Anyway im babbling on now, just needed to clear my thoughts. If we arnt meant to be together ever agaib i just hope i can find someone and share something so amazing once more.