Dear laelithia:

Our emotional experiences of life all happen in the area between our ears, in that relatively small organ, our brain. Without it, we would feel and know nothing.

What you experienced with this man was true love, this is what it felt like to you and what it meant to you. This was a very powerful experience and its power is still strong.

The fact that the “dream guy” is not real (as in the title of your thread: “Someone who wasn’t real), means nothing to your subjective experience in-between-the-ears, and that experience was again, true love.

You wrote: “I don’t think many women would be as distraught as I have been from such a short romance”- many women would be as distraught, probably all, if they experienced true love during any length of a romance.

You wrote: “I have a hole, a deep longing that never seems to go away.”- this hole, this longing was temporarily satiated and there was no better feeling. No wonder you miss that feeling.

A worthy objective would be to satiate that longing with not only a feeling, a subjective in-between-the-ears experience, but with reality to fit the subjective experience.

anita