Thank you both for your input. My logic sais to me do your thing ley her do hers and if theres still interest or enough love left to see if we could pick things back up in 2 years once im back in the same city. My logic has never led me astray as long as i can remember i just wish i could use that logic to reason with my heart. She is now following me on social media and we talk most days but i refuse to follow her at this stage to prevent the hurt. Yes its true if she wanted to be with me she would be. Logic in a nutshell. Im not sure how i feel about her coming over to see me later this year.. she also wants to bring her kids one weekend which one side of me wants nothing more but the other knows the hurt that will be involved. She did say it will not secure her, so im thinking and hoping it wont push me back to square 1.