Dear Cloud:

I re-read your posts. Let me know if I understand correctly:

You are 30. In high school you dated a few men. For sixteen years you were in love with your ex best friend, a woman, but it was an unrequited love, and she took an unfair advantage of you.

More recently you had fallen in love with a woman you met online, your “therapist”- she is 20, is unsure of her sexuality and she lives in another country, open to the possibility of a long term relationship with you.

You are conflicted: you are saving to fly and meet her in person to explore that possibility of your first requited love relationship on one hand, and on the other hand you are thinking of developing a love relationship with a woman living in your area. You are afraid of being hurt by the 20 year old because of her uncertainty and the long distance element.

Am I completely accurate or am I missing something?

anita