Hi Vivi,

I think this man really likes you, but what might have happened was to many people in the mix, creating drama, chaos and confusion. And this can cause a break-down of any relationship if clear boundaries and needs are not firmly put in place.

I am not saying he can’t have friends. I think it is healthy in a relationship for a man and a woman to have friends, but not when there is constant interaction. What you might want to do, is just go out with him. Your friends and that woman can do their own thing, they don’t have to be the third wheel and be with you and your boyfriend all the time. If you are with them, make sure it is “double dating” so you don’t have any tension with that other woman. They should not be going out with you and your boyfriend all the time anyway, especially the woman, it is very intrusive and I feel rude of them.

I would set clear boundaries with that woman, and tell her that you value her, but you feel at this point, you just want to enjoy time alone with your boyfriend right now. Try to set clear boundaries with him using “I feel” statements” and state your feelings and that you would like to be alone with him for awile on dates. By this time, maybe your friends will meet other friends to hang out with. Keep us posted.