Hi Larissa,

I don’t know if you have really lost yourself. But all you knew is turbulance, instability, fighting and chaos in your childhood, and if left unresolved, it wreaks havoc in our adult lives, as we relive the chaos in our adult lives since that is all we know, then we hand that down to our children, who then hand it down to their children, and on it goes. It’s an unfortunate viscous cycle.

We did not have the love and nurturing we needed from our parents as children, so we have no foundation when we go in adulthood. We try to get out unmet childhood needs met through chaos in our relationships, through our children, friendships, even bosses and co-workers.

I too had a very turbulent, neglectful, abusive childhood, constant abandonment. I think what has helped me most is Psychotherapy, to get to the root of these issues, 12 step support programs, Post traumatic and co-dependent support groups. I have had many free support groups where hospitals have them for free, when I didn’t have insurance. I’m sorry this happened to you, and hope things get better. Keep us posted.