Dear Anita,

1) I feel that she takes advantage of my kindness by playing games. It’s like I’m supposed to get her out of her moods and understand everything she is thinking, but it’s impossible to mind read. She hardly gives me any information about why she may be upset or annoyed. For awhile, I was willing and happy to help her and understand why she was acting the way she was. But over time, after seeing that she continues with this behavior, it’s leading to resentment and my disinterest in wasting my precious energy solving her moods.

2) I did mean to say push/pull, my apologies. What I mean by that is the nature of our relationship I feel. I seek connection and her love and affection and I think she feels the same way too, but the push/pull nature ties into the cycles between us. I’m always trying to understand her and determine why she’s annoyed or whatever and when I decide to back off it seems she comes running back with an apology. It’s just impossible to understand anything because she’s so brief with her apologies and we can’t ever talk seriously because she thinks her simple little apology is enough. But for me, an apology only goes so far. I think the importance of an apology is sincerity and willingness to change actions. I don’t see much changing with these apologies.

I can understand what you mean by describing the circumstances she is under. Ultimately, it feels that I’m much more aware of my emotions and I’m so much more conscientious of why I act the way I do, and try to work towards change. I believe she is on another level of consciousness, like a lower frequency, and can’t come to grips with her emotions.