Hi Connie,

We all make mistakes in relationships. Please try not to be so hard on yourself. There are probably some things he did wrong too. I think the way to forgive yourself, is knowing and accepting your flaws and working on them. For example, if you feel you are going to lose control of your emotions, take a time out, go for a walk, excuse yourself, and never send a text or e-mail when you are angry,

Try to work on not criticizing or scrutiny. If you feel you are going to say something hurtful, ask yourself, if someone were to say it to you, and how you would feel. Take deep breaths and regain control of your emotions. I am prescribed Topamax for emotion regulation by my Psychiatrist, and it has been a Godsend, as I have lashed out too, and sabatoge my relationships. Forgive yourself by joining a anger management support group, or emotions Anonymous, or therapy to help you cope better in the heat of the moment and in times of distress, so your future relationships can be happy and healthy.