Dear Lisa:

At the very beginning of your thread, May 1, you wrote: “I can not get beyond unmet needs… (regarding other women) to be just loved for who they are. I want that… (being) held in higher regard… I am devastated that I am a nothing.”

One significant, big need a person has is to feel worthy. It hurts a whole lot when you are treated early on as if you have no worth, as if you are a nothing. That is a kind of a pain that doesn’t go away.

You feel that men treat you as worthless  or as less worthy than other women. You are angry at men for that and jealous at women who are “held in higher regard”.

One very significant unmet need that is hurting you so very much is that very feeling that you are treated as a nobody, as less worthy, as one held in lower regard.

I know it hurts, Lisa. If you were indeed worthless, being treated as such wouldn’t have hurt. But because you are worthy, as worthy as any other woman on the face of this earth, it hurts.

anita