Dear Franny,

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.  They always tell the truth of what is real.  It sounds like it’s time to take the focus off of him and start putting it back onto yourself.  I don’t know why women (mostly) put so much time, attention, and energy into relationships/partners/boyfriends who aren’t willing to give back in return.  You can’t “make” anyone love you.  You can’t “force” anyone to want to spend time with you.  And after speaking up and trying to resolve the situation, if they’re still not willing to give to you or compromise or take your feelings into consideration, then it’s time to “let go,”

Spend time focusing on yourself.  Doing the things that make you happy and bring you joy.  Date lots of other people.  Discover more of the attributes in a person that you want.  Recognize the aspects of a person/personality that you don’t want.  They both help you become more clear about what kind of relationship you want in your life.

The single most important relationship in your life is the one with yourself.  Are you happy?  Are you filling yourself up?  Do you love yourself enough to say “NO” to the things that are hurtful to you?  If you’re not able to set healthy boundaries for yourself, then how can start learning to and doing that for yourself?  Sourround yourself with people that lift you up and love, appreciate, and accept you as you are.  Learn to love, appreciate, and accept Yourself as you are.  And strive to become the best version of yourself while you’re doing that.

Let Go of the things/people that aren’t working well in your life.  Hold on tight to the things that Are.  And continue finding more things that do.

Good luck.  Take care and blessings to you!

Dawn