Hi Koala,

In order for a relationship to be healthy when it comes to resolving issues it has to be 50/50. Right now, it is 100/0. You are investing so much time and energy in this man..100% and he is investing nothing. (0%). His family is not making matters any better, which makes it a no-win situation. He wants to push things under the rug, act juvenile, not talk to you in a mature and rational manner, you can talk to him until you are blue in the face, and unless he wants help from counseling for underlying unresolved issues, you will soon burn yourself out.

I would tell him firmly, that nothing is going to change until he is willing to meet you half way. You can’t do this on your own. What he is doing right now is disrespecting you and not meeting your needs to be heard and have a mature conversation. It may be wise to advise him, to maybe take a break from each other for awhile, until he can relate to you like an adult, 50/50, or the relationship most likely will not last. He needs to do his part. You should not invest more time and energy in someone then they invest in you.