Dear Danielle:

I am soon going away from the computer for eight hours or so, therefore I will not be available for a back and forth posting till then. But for now, I see no indication by your therapist that there is something wrong with you sexually, none at all, nor do I think so myself. By a “deeper issue” I think she meant something non sexual, nothing to do with sex. Something scared you, as a child- could be your mother’s anxiety in itself. It is scary for a child to be dependent on a highly anxious person- it makes a child feels unsafe… and scared. Then the interrogations by themselves were harmful to you.

Besides, she herself told you that she did not mean that something is wrong with you sexually. For a therapist to suggest that sounds unprofessional to me. As a matter of fact, by suggesting there is a “deeper issue” – I bet she meant deeper than sexual, that is, not sexual.

Calm down, Danielle. You are on the right path, going to therapy. Take care of yourself right now, today, all through. Be back in eight hours or so.

anita