Dear Derek:

You wrote that you are living with your parents and would like to move out, but cannot do so for now. You job of three years feels like a hassle and you would like to quit. You can live off your savings, at your parents’, for a few months, if you quit.

You wrote that you had a lot of hard times in your life, lots of sorrow, but somehow you got rid of those experiences. You wrote it is hard for you to explain this point. (I do wonder if you could try?)

And you wrote that you are into self improvement, that you have experienced slow and steady progress in this regard.

At times you drink alcohol and get drunk, with friends, I understand. When you do, you feel unmotivated, waste your time, and are not engaged in self improvement.

My answer to your question:”How do I keep being motivated? I mean how do I receive more and more loads of motivation to keep going forward?”-

To be motivated means to be excited, inspired, and we, as humans, cannot always be excited. So the goal to feel excited, or to feel any desirable feeling is tricky. We can’t simply choose our feelings. Sometimes we feel bored, uninspired.

The fact that you live where you don’t want to live and work where you don’t want to work at, these two things, are uninspiring, demotivating. The key is to function as effectively as you can without feeling excited, inspired, driven… motivated. You have to endure the unpleasant feelings that you cannot prevent (they accompany living in undesirable circumstances), accept your present circumstances as they are, for now, with as much peace of mind as possible and then function effectively: avoid getting drunk, since that bothers you. Then either move out first while keeping the job or quit and look for another job.

Depending on what is a worse experience: living with our parents OR doing this job…?

And remind yourself daily of this:  “I BELIEVE in brighter future”

anita