Dear Connie:

No doubt you were wrong to verbally abuse him every time that you did; no doubt you were wrong to tell him that you wanted to break up when you didn’t, again and again. You do  need to control the expressions of your anger. And when you want a break up, say it just once and then follow through; don’t threaten it as a way to manipulate the man to behave this or that way.

In his email to you, he tells you in a detailed way how much he is suffering. He wrote: “I will willfully continue to suffer, knowing that this is for the best and what you ultimately want”- He is willing to suffer, he wrote. And he repeats that this is what you, Connie, wants.. You want him to suffer, is the message?

I am thinking at this point, that it might be possible that he is punishing you, trying to make you suffer over his suffering, delivering a message like this: see what you did, Connie? I am suffering terribly and it is your fault! It is what you wanted! You wanted this!

Can it be, a guilt trip execution on his part?

anita