Dear Love100%:

My advice to you is to choose your husband over your mother. Reason: you wrote, “I had always tried to help her, communicate with her, but nothing works. This is 0% success of all your efforts over your lifetime. On the other hand, you had good success following your efforts with your husband, “we have gone through ups and downs in our relationship but always chosen to stick together and growth from any situation”-

And so, why put more efforts where you had no success for so long, and neglect the person with whom you did have success?

Besides, your mother is wrong and your husband is right. Stand by the person who is right and not by the person who is wrong.

Your husband needs your support. You owe him that support.

I believe that your job is not to be neutral, not when the well being of your husband and child and your own is dependent on you taking the side of your chosen family (husband and child).

anita