Dear Victoria:

You wrote: “the bosses just keep saying ‘it’s between you two’ and will stay out of it-

you disagree with their attitude and policy and this is not the last time you will disagree with an employer’s attitudes and policies, even in a big, organized company or agency.

What you do, as an employee, here and anywhere you work, for as long as you choose to be an employee, is to follow the employer’s instructions, as long as the instructions are not illegal or clearly unethical. In this case, they clearly instructed you to leave them out of any concerns you have about your co-worker. So do so. Don’t address any concerns with them.

You can list her lies, or potential lies, on a paper, or a Word document on the computer, listing dates and times of what she said. If the employers approach you in the future about anything she said, then look at your document and respond then.

anita