Hi Katie.
I somehow relate to what you wrote about having relationship anxiety. I have it too and when I’m in a relationship that is my main focus cause just like you I don’t have many hobbies and I’m not a sociable person who enjoys going out often and keep in touch with people, except for a partner with whom I’d spend every minute with.
You asked if it’s okay to go a day without talking when you’re in a relationship. I think it depends on the person. I wouldn’t like it. For me it’s not normal and I would not want to be with someone like that (just my opinion). I think you need to communicate your thoughts more in a kind, nice manner.
You said you two met online… So I guess you saw how he is like from the beginning, right? And then it didn’t bother you. If someone reaaally likes you and is invested in you, you’ll just know.
It’s a good thing you have learnt from your past mistakes (for example not to ask again a man to compare the feelings for you with the feelings for someone else in the past – that sounds like something I did sometime ago, and just like you finally understood it makes no sense to do that).