Dear Ty:

You wrote: “although you have forgiven the wrongdoer, you must be stand vigilant in protecting yourself from them in the future”- in my experience it is not a good idea to stick around a person who requires that I keep vigilant in their company.

It is not congruent with mental well-being to be in a state of ongoing vigilance when it is unnecessary. In other words, it is a better choice to remove oneself from certain individuals than it is to forgive them and stay in their presence.

anita