Dear Katie:

I am thinking you want to hear the man saying he never felt like this before because if he felt like this before in a previous relationship and the relationship ended, it means the feeling was wrong, and so, it can be wrong in the relationship with you too. And no matter what the answer, the relief is temporary and you “start getting anxious that they don’t feel like that anymore!”-

Feelings are not tangible. You can’t put them in the bank and be assured that they keep their value; you can’t hold on to them and keep them whole. Can’t depend much on feelings.

This is why character is important, that is, the values a man practices. Choose a character, and your chances for a loving relationship, a desirable, lasting relationship is much better. Maybe a reasonable questioning of a man values, or better observing his values in his behavior with you and with others, is more sensible than asking him about his feelings.

Nonetheless, fear is very powerful. I know that very well.

anita