Dear Quirine:

I am supposing your father shouting at you, at the time, scared you. I wonder how you tried to prevent him from disapproving of you and shouting at you…

You wrote: “there is no chance that I will get all the answers now (she likes me? how much? what does she think? what’s she doing now?), instead future will show!”- we look for our emotional security in what other people feel for us, thinks of us, how much of their time they are thinking of us and are they thinking only of us… correct?

It is walking on shaky ground when our sense of security is dependent on such intangible things as someone’s feelings and thoughts.

anita