@anita

Just another update on the situation, but I believe things will be mostly smooth sailing from here.

We had a very good discussion yesterday and learned quite a bit more about each other in more important aspects of our lives. I even went on to ask him if he felt someone who tended to lean optimist and someone who tended to lean pessimist would be able to work together, and he replied that he thinks it would be mostly about finding healthy boundaries and balance between both sides, but he believes it possible.

I did present him with my concerns of codependency- not necessarily addressing him specifically- but mostly affirming that as an easily drained person, I can’t be someone’s sole source of happiness or therapy, and he was fully understanding of this.

We discussed a few other things, but by the end of the discussion I feel like we would stand an honest chance. The best part being that neither one of us is jumping to say we’re starting a relationship ‘now,’ but rather we’re going to see how things go over the next few weeks and we might just fade into things gradually if all is well.

This is the first time I have felt this comfortable and at ease about starting a potential relationship with someone.

-Isra