Dear Natalie, I am sorry you are living in the process of what you described. I felt you when you said you were so happy with him, because “having a guy like him like someone like me” — that’s my self talk as well, when someone I am attracted to pays me attention. What I do when that attention ceases is I plunge, as if to an endless bottom. You said he hadn’t contacted you again after telling you everything was good on your end. He placated you to avoid what he imagined would be unpleasant, so he chose that way out. I have done that to others; I have also had that done to me. When I was the one doing it, I had no intention of re-establishing contact; when it was done to me, I began to mentally cling onto the person, thinking him into this all-loving, all-perfect person that doesn’t and never did exist. I hope I didn’t sound cruel with what I said. I wanted to share my experience with you so you could walk free from expectations that he was great and that it was your loss. Take care of yourself, Natalie. Gia