Connie:

It seems like you mention breaking up when you become unsure of the relationship and anxiety maybe kicks in so you think it’s easier to just break up. I used to do that in my past relationship and it was because I was DEEPLY unhappy. I knew I wanted better/more and he just wasn’t that. It took a long time but I finally ended it and couldn’t be happier. I think in this situation he wants to be with you but since you aren’t physically there it’s hard to express it. He may get caught up in his life and the things that are around him and when he’s lonely… he thinks of you and writes you. I wish you the best of luck. I think the no contact thing might be good, he has to win you over and show how much he loves you.