Dear -Extra-ordinaryChica:

I perceive mental health as our mind being congruent with reality, our thinking and feeling fitting reality. So when you “feel sad, depressed, and alone to know ” that you can’t rely on your mother, a person “you’re supposed to be able to rely on”-

A mentally unwell person would take this sadness to mean that she should pursue her mother, make her reliable, change her, or wait for her to change. A mentally well person will take this sadness to mean that her mother is unreliable and therefore should be let go, no efforts to change her, no waiting. Instead, give up hope and invest in other relationships, maybe a future relationship with someone yet to be met, someone who is reliable.

anita