Dear noah:

You started your post with “I am currently 25 yrs old and in an exclusive healthy 1 1/2 year long relationship”- but what you described in the rest of your thread is not a healthy relationship.

It is not a healthy relationship because you, for one, don’t want to be in it, really. Because she has been following your and your ex Facebook accounts for communication between the two of you. Because she threatened suicide in the context of the relationship. Because you “expressed how mistrusted I felt in the relationship” to her and indeed you are not worthy of trust as far as contacting your ex.

For a relationship to be healthy the two individuals in it need to pursue mental health individually and together. I didn’t read indications that it has been the case…?

anita