Dear Mina:

I suggested that “what your mother taught you is not completely true”-

Let’s look at her friend who, according to your mother “married the ‘wrong person'”, a man who is “financially unstable”:

The negative consequences to the friend, consequences of marrying a Nobody (concept from earlier the earlier post), are:

1. She “had to worked her ass off for her family to eat”

2. You observed her “hiding her expensive handbags from her husband” (“She loves to shop and travel”).

3. She “had to have her third child not on a hospital but on a small clinic because she lacked money”.

My input: a woman who had to work “her ass off for her family to eat” can afford expensive handbags? How can a woman who works her ass off so to feed a family of five: three children, a husband and herself, afford shopping, travelling and expensive handbags?

A woman who had to work her ass off for her family of five to eat, and who had to give birth to a child in a small inexpensive or free clinic, because she could not afford to go to a hospital, can afford expensive handbags, to shop and travel?

Maybe, Mina, the “financially unstable” husband was unstable because he had an irresponsible overspending wife?

What your mother told you and what you witnessed (her hiding her expensive handbags) is part of a story. The bigger picture, or the whole story can be very different from what was presented to you and what you imagine it to be.

You wrote: “I am also seeing it myself. and most of the time, I am seeing the same things as my mother had told me.”-

Imagine you are in a dark room with your mother. She is holding a flashlight and pointing it here and there and you can see what she is pointing to. But you only see the very small areas she is pointing to with her flashlight. The rest is dark. So you say: “I m also seeing it myself”-

But if someone turned on the light in the room so you can see all of it, the whole room, it may look very different than what you imagined based on this very little area and that other small corner.

anita