Anita,

Thank you for the feedback, seriously – thank you. It means a lot to me.

You wrote : “… these are all good things, very good things. Remember these things so to expect them in your next relationship, to look for these things.”

Reading this writing from you, I can feel a bit of a sting in my heart. A lot of our mutual friends decided to to side with me during the break up and was blaming my ex boyfriend for the break up. They told me that my ex did not fight for me, and did not kept his promise to at least try to make it work over time. I explained that regardless of anything that they have mentioned, he is a very good person and a very good boyfriend to me. He brought out the best in me. No one except for me recognised how well he treated me. You are the first person that acknowledged he was a good boyfriend after the break up. My ex himself until now – does not think he was a good boyfriend, I have a bit of regrets for not replying his birthday text message and express how grateful I am to had him in my life.

You wrote : “Take your focus from the unit, specifically from the “boyfriend” part of the unit, and bring it to the “you” part of the unit.”

I am trying. I will try to focus on my studies, my social life in general and university clubs next semester instead of thinking about how miserable my life is without him. I know that my ex will want me to live my life again. The break up was hard on both of us.

Seeing him “pulled through” from the break up, it made me admired him. He is having a harder time than me, with his new upcoming changes that is very unpredictable and scary – I am sure deleting his Facebook also wasn’t easy for him. Cutting off contacts with most of his friends and social circle.

He became a reminder for me to move on. If I cannot run, I will walk, and If I cannot walk, I will crawl to get through this. His last words to me was :

“I would like it if you have fun and be happy in your life.”

The very last words that I hold on to very much.

I know now that my last “sacrifice” for him would be me, being happy without him.

It is his last and sincere wish to me. To simply be happy. That even though this break up was very hard, it will pass. That I will definitely meet someone that will love me more than he did and will treat me better than he did too. He told me this and looked me in the eye. He believed in me more than I ever believed in myself.

For that, I am thankful. I won’t waste his last words to me by not being happy or by not moving on with my life.

I will start my life again – and that is my special way for me to honour him and the relationship.

-Mina