Dear None:

I still believe that indeed it is best for you to not get involved in this drama.

As far as your concern about your cousin picking up on your disgust with the guy when they are both in your physical presence (“I would probably look at him with disgust”)-

as you see him in the periphery of your vision, do not focus your eyes on him. You can see him in the background, that way, but without focus. This way you are not likely to feel that intense disgust and it will not show on your face.

anita