Hi Zoe,

I know it is difficult to have a break-up and see the one you love on a dating site. However, things aren’t always as they appear. I will give you an example. I had a man break things off with me. It was right around the Christmas Holidays. We were “friend’s” on Facebook before the break-up, but I was devastated and wanted no contact with him and wanted to “block” him from social media and dating sites, so I couldn’t make myself miserable “seeing what he was up to” when I was on FB getting ready to block him, in my feed, I noticed one of my former co-workers sending him cute, flirty emoji’s. Then even though I shouldn’t have, I saw a picture of them at a Christmas party, arms around each other looking very happy.

I was devastated, thinking, how could he have moved on so quick, while I was at home crying over him, not wanting to do anything. Turns out, that I talked with a friend of his, and the friend said they had not gone to the Christmas party together, he was there and said my ex was very depressed, but that this woman had alot to drink and was all over him and pleaded with his friend to take a picture, which she “tagged” and put on his profile. He said my ex was in no way attracted to her, that she was the one heavily flirting with him and sending him all the emoji’s. He just wanted to be single at the time.

I don’t think just because your ex is on a dating site, he is “moving on”. He may be depressed and just looking for attention or someone to talk to. You may even hear back from him in a few weeks. Just try not to have any contact with him for awhile. Don’t go to his profile on dating sites, because it will only make you miserable, and he may see that the grass is not greener on the other side and contact you. I am sure he is not moving on.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 3 months ago by Eliana.