Stacey, take the positives out of being able to identify all your faults. What you have written is Avery detailed description of your inner workings and most wouldn’t be able to do that or  be able to identify them. You are already moving in the right direction. Well done, be proud.

You don’t have to keep remembering this past relationship as a negative experience, flip it on its head! Remember it as a learning experience and guide for yourself, so the next time that special person comes around you will know that you must control your short comings and not let these impose on your great relationship.

It seems that this past experience is conintiously playing on your mind. Let’s put an end to that. Something I find useful is writing an apology to someone, you don’t have to send it or every day it to them but let’s get it out of your head and onto paper. If you ever feel the time is right you can let them know but for now let’s write it down, remove it from your thoughts, make peace with the situation and move on.

if you feel chronically unhappy then that is your next step, every day try write down one thing you are extremely grateful for, it can be anything, your family, friends, education etc but wrote one thing down every day and hold it close to you for the day. Then every week compile all those things together and keep add to that already great list of 7 things into week 2. Use this list and re read whenever you need to lift yourself, don’t let that dark cloud fall over you when you have that list as armour.

Goals are important but not as important as being happy. The above is your first goal… writing what you are grateful for and doing it consistently. Let’s work on making you happy and secure as your number one goal. Then we can focus on the less important goals.

Remeber, you have already identified what makes you sad and unhappy. Let’s work to fix this step by step, day by day together…