Hi Amaya,

Have you ever heard the term “passive aggressive” behavior? Basically these are “verbally abusive insults, descized as “jokes” by a chronically unhappy person (your boyfriend) as a way to make you feel bad about yourself or belittle you. Then when you confront them about it, they will say “I was just joking!! You are overreacting! (another put down in a form of emotional abuse). Or, if you ask them them something, they will say “whatever!” or “I’m not mad” or they will try to place the blame on you, making you look like the bad guy.

This happens everywhere. In the workplace, in frienships, families, etc. There are excellent self help books on Amazon or library/book stores on how to deal with passive aggressive behavior, and verbal abuse. I do feel the best thing is to take a break from each other and work on these issues, or go into couples counseling together. But that is only if you and he want to change. x