Hi, Anita,
His tone is mostly of annoyance, but I know it’s not towards me. It’s just the way he handles his stress that makes me feel like I should be responsible for it which makes me feel frustrated.
When he’s stressed about work or his family, he will rant about the situation, and I’d listen and offer advice if needed. Usually, he will rant for the entire time and not even ask me about how I am, so I just turn quiet and be silently annoyed.
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Eliana,
Please don’t apologize; I should’ve been more clear with our situation.
It kind of just started to happen. He was in the process of moving places with his family and is just now settling down, and he is about to start school again, but he’s stressed because he can’t get into all of his classes at the moment. I, on the other hand, am just mostly stressed about saving up and paying off my school debt which I started just last month. I guess, we are both dealing with our own stressors in life and we don’t know how to lean on each other for support.
I’ve been trying to be more calm because I want him to be able to confide in me, instead of us fighting each other about small petty things.
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