Hi Sarah,

The only person who can give us closure is ourselves. Only you can give yourself closure for the ghosting. And only he can give himself closure for the ghosting.

From the other side, I have had someone (we are in our forties now) apologize for something that (didn’t) happen at age 17/18. Yes, to me it struck me as a little arrogant. I wrote back, “I forgave you for that long ago LOL” and he was all “NO! I just want to say I’m REALLY, REALLY(!) sorry!!!” and I was all, “It’s OK” (omgpleasedon’tcontactmeagainthisisreallyweird)! I felt that HE felt I had been pining away for him for twenty five years and that creeped me out.

Forgive your very young eighteen year old self. As he has (if he hasn’t, he’s crazy, and RUN!)

Best,

Inky